11th of June 2015

Bad Advice From The Internet: Get Over Your Fear & Build Confidence By Getting Rejected

Why This Is Bad Advice

Repeated failure, getting rejected over and over again, will destroy your confidence.

This is absolutely NOT how confidence works. You build true confidence only through success and demonstrated performance. We have talked over and over again about the research on confidence and how this works on past episodes.

As a strange man approaching a strange woman, you should feel anxious because it’s socially predatory. Don’t feel bad about that nervous feeling.


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The One Place Where This Advice Can Work

Surviving failure, not experiencing it, can help guys with crippling anxiety who have this unconscious idea that getting rejected is a catastrophe and because of that fear, they do nothing, which is the worst thing you can do.


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